“Help me save my marriage.” This is one of the common sentences that men might say after they get married for several years. The problem is not very difficult to be fixed indeed. But it obviously takes time and efforts.
Before you try to blame your partner for causing the troubles in marriage, you should try to look at yourself first. You should try to seek what happens in order to see if the liability is on your side. There are many people who have tried to blame each other when there is a problem of their marriage. If you are not able to spot out the mistakes that you have made, it can be very difficult for you to find the way out. Some of the people are not willing to disclose their discontent to you in marriage and they would directly go divorce from you. If your partner has this type of characteristic, you have to evaluate yourself thoroughly. You may think that they do not know that you have cheated but they might actually know that well. This might be the cause of breakage of marriage. If you do not do the self-reflection, it would be impossible for you to fix the marriage problems.
You can choose to discuss with the friends of your partner if you find that your partner is not willing to tell you the cause of marriage problem. They might choose to disclose the things to their friends or family rather than you. Therefore, you can choose to meet their friends or families in order to identify the problem.
If you have found the problems, you should practically work out the solution. If the problem lies on the faith problem, you should try to make your commitments to marriage. If you cannot give your partner a secure feeling in the marriage, it means that you have not tried to stay at home or share your feelings with your partner. Then, you should try to do more on these aspects to show that you are willing to change and you are willing to protect your partner. Men usually fail to make their women feel secure and this is a very common marriage problem.
To conclude, resolving marriage problem can be easy if you know the cause. Thus, the first step to do with ‘help me save my marriage’ is to self-reflect and then find the causes of problems.